Minnesota wedding officiant

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Having perfomed more than 400 wedding ceremonies, I feel like I have seen just about everything. I have officiated short weddings, long weddings, formal weddings, casual weddings, theme weddings complete with costumes, weddings in ice fishing houses, backyards, country clubs, churches, chapels, bridges, parks, on lakes and rivers, on boats, at VFW's, and even Target Field before a Twins Game! I've married couples in 103 degree heat as well as weather as cold as 13 degrees below zero (with a windchill of -37).


I have found that no matter what type of wedding a couple is planning, I seem to be asked many of the same questions time and time again. That's why I created this page...to answer all of those frequently asked questions. Some of you may have the same questions, so I hope these answers will help you out. Of course if you still have questions after reading this - email me! I am more than happy to answer any questions you have.



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Frequently Asked Questions

How many different ceremonies do you have? That's a tough question. Some wedding officiants have only two ceremonies - a long version and short one. I have about 25 weddings in my collection, but since I give my couples complete control over their ceremony, the possible number of ceremonies are endless.

Will you allow us to customize our ceremony? For crying out loud YES. This is YOUR wedding ceremony, not mine. If you have been reading other people's web pages, I'm sure you have come to realize that many officiants charge extra for you to customize or change their ceremonies. Not only do I not charge a dime for any changes you want, I encourage you to do so.

What if we want to write our own ceremony? Will you perform it for us, or do we have to use one of yours? If you already have a ceremony, or want to totally make one up, that's great! I will be more than happy to perform your wedding.

Will you perform a non-religious ceremony? This is one of my most frequently asked questions, and the answer is 'Yes'. Some couples come from families with very different beliefs, while some others are more "spiritual" than "religious". If you prefer to have a civil wedding ceremony as opposed to a religious one, I respect your choice.

What is your process? If you decide that you want to have me officiate your wedding ceremony, the first thing we need to do is get the signing of the contract and the deposit out of the way. With those formalities complete, we can get down to the fun stuff - creating your wedding ceremony. Once I receive the contract and deposit, I will send you more than a dozen different ceremonies for the both of you to go through. You may find that one of these ceremonies is perfect for you, but more than likely you will like different parts of different ceremonies. If that is the case, simply work some cut and paste magic and combine all of the parts you like into one wedding ceremony that fits you just right. I will also send you several prayers, poems and readings for you to add to your ceremony if you would like. Don't forget to add in any personal touches along the way!

Once you are done creating your ceremony, I will look it over to make sure that all of the important pieces are there (we don't want to forget the ring exchange, do we?). With the number of ceremonies I have performed, I may change up the order of your ceremony to make sure it flows smoothly. Experience counts!

What about vows? Can we write our own? Of course you can. If you would like to write your own vows, that's great. If not, I can send you about four pages of them to choose from. No cookie cutter wedding vows here.

Can we meet you before we make a decision on who to hire? You bet. I am more than willing to meet you two for some coffee and to answer your questions in person. Hiring an officiant to perform your wedding ceremony without meeting them first is a bit like buying a car over the phone. And no, I don't charge you for the meeting...that would be silly.

What if you get sick or something happens where you can't do the wedding? Do you have a backup? Yes, my partner, Rev. Ross Eichele, is also a wedding officiant in MN and will fill in for me if I am unable to get to your wedding for one reason or another. Luckily, this has never happened before.

Are there any hidden charges? Nope. The price is the price - it's as simple as that.

Will you file the paperwork for us, or do we have to do that? Part of my job as a Minnesota wedding officiant is to make sure that all of the paperwork is filled out correctly and filed on time, so yes, I will take care of that for you. It is important to note, however, that you must obtain your Minnesota Marriage License yourself! You and your fiance must go to any local courthouse and apply for your Marriage License. This isn't something that I can furnish for you. Your Marriage License is good for six months, so don't wait until the last minute to apply.

What if (fill in the blank) happens right before (or during) the ceremony? Let's face it, no matter how prepared we are, sometimes things just don't work out the way we planned. Last minute location change due to weather? Best Man lost the ring? Can't repeat your vows because you're crying too hard? Flower Girl/Ring Bearer won't walk down the aisle? The wind blows dad's toupee off while walking you down the aisle? I've seen it all and it's not a problem. I am not one who gets easily flustered, and I'm never at a loss for words. We'll get through it...I promise.

So now what? Email me or give me a call so we can set up a time and place to meet. I'm sure we can find a Caribou Coffee between us where we can get together.